I took myself off the market! In hopes that one day a wealthy connoisseur will find me at a garage sale leaning up against an old mattress.
But for real, I’ve stopped caring about dating. Whaaaat? I’ll make a video about it, promise! And several more after that! Just as soon as I can care again…
But you know that I make regular jokes here, right?
Don’t be weird. I have no time for that shit.
next episode will be different than it was going to be.
it will be very special though – if I ever have time to make it. not gonna lie, it might be a few weeks because m’shit is buuuusaaaaay!
soon lovers. soon.
AnonymousOooooooh! I get it. Well regardless I hope that a VALUABLE LESSON WAS LEARNED from my previous lecture…
Alright – finding someone who compliments personality/talents: yes absolutely! Ultimately it depends on all the subtle variances of attraction, but yeah I don’t think it’s codependent to want someone who balances you out a bit.
For instance, I’m an arty type who hate taxes and finances - so if I meet someone who is otherwise amazing and also happens to know numbers, cool! But I could never just date an accountant. Maybe someone with a BFA and a BBA? But that’s basically asking for a unicorn, sooo…
Anyway, yep. I could never be with someone just like me. But I could never be with someone who liked Nickelback either. They are multifarious, these webs we weave (for catching people who we’ll, like, fall in love with or whatever. I’ve had a couple of beers so I’m gonna let that metaphor slide).
All the best, Anon!
AnonymousHey good question!
I think about this a lot and I thiiinnnk I’ve figured it out (and this is my general opinion, I’m not passing judgement on you, anon):
As far as “finding someone who will help us work on our weaknesses” – that’s like, the worst way to approach a relationship. It turns into this thing where you’ve passed accountability for your weaknesses onto someone else, and they’re in charge of fixing you. No one can save you but yourself! Someone might make you feel light and happy and inspired, but don’t burden that person with “helping you change”. YOU are the one in charge of changing. Leave them the fuck out of it.
I’ve been in a few relationships where the dude thought I could change him, and it SUCKS. At first it’s like “hey you want to change? Okay let’s do it!” but pretty soon it’s like “christ, you’re a downer and I’m doing all the work and you don’t care and I’m exhausted now. Bye.”
So that was a bit of a rant. But here’s the GOOD NEWS: if, before you get into a relationship thing, you actually take the time to work your shit out – self-improvement, choices you’ve been avoiding, volunteering, classes, counselling – then you end up with all these new and exciting interests and perspectives. You get excited about YOUR OWN SHIT. And that’s fucking awesome! Then you meet someone who’s maybe into the same stuff, but instead of it being something lame like “we both like TV”, it’s something cool like “we’re both really into urban gardening!” or “we met at a painting class!”.
So maybe it isn’t even enough to just be looking for someone with similar interests if you’re not super happy with your life to being with? I think that before anyone decides that they need to be with someone, you should have tried your damnedest to find happiness on your own. It should be about sharing the awesomeness that you’ve got, not seeking relationships that might fill the hole. Fill yer own hole! (Eeewwwww!)
THEN AGAIN, if you’re more or less happy with your life then do it to it! Whatevs! Power 2 U!
Long answer! Hope it didn’t suck!
All from the same guy:
Msg 1: “Hey nice profile, how are you doing this weekend?” *ignored* (not because I thought he was a dick, just wasn’t for me and I’m a busy gal).
Msg 2: “Hey there, nice profile. How are you doing today? :)” *ignored* because it was another boring message among a zillion boring messages.
Msg 3: “Hey how’s it going. Saw you online so I figured I would say nice profile, straight to the Point. And you are pretty damn gorgeous as well. What are you up to today?” *ignored* because he’s clearly got nothing interesting to say.
Msg 4: “Hey there nice Profile. How are you doing today?” *ignored* Dude, move on.
Msg 5: “Hey how’s it going, nice profile :) What are you up to today?” *ignored* persistence will not make up for the fact that you have nothing to say.
Msg 6: “Hey there nice Profile. How are you doing today?” *ignored* SERIOUSLY DUDE.
Next ones, all in one day:
Msg 7: “Hey nice pics” *ignored*
Msg 8: “What’s a gorgeous woman like your self up to today”
MY RESPONSE: “Not interested”
Msg 9: “Yea that’s what i said to my self after i tried watching one of your overly long but very boring and lame video’s on youtube. lol.”
TOUCHÉ, IDIOT. TOUCHÉ. LET’S FUCK.
Christ.
Next vid is going to be A+ tops great job!
I’ll be taking you all on a dating journey with me.
It will be weird. And fun. Hopefully.
the best thing to do when you don’t hear back promptly from a message you’ve sent is to send an aggressive message expressing your damaged penis feelings. THAT WILL GET YOU A DATE FOR SURE.
same goes for you, ladies.
can everyone just chill the fuck out, already?
CHRIST.
if you’re sending girls videos of handsome indie singer/songwriters, you’d better be the handsome indie singer/songwriter in question – otherwise you’ve just unwittingly shot yourself in your lame and uninteresting foot.
lower your expectations. Then recoil in horror at your options, regain your dignity, and raise them the fuck up again.
